Often confused feelings
Some feelings live so close together that we reach for the wrong name. Here are thirty pairs, drawn where each one sits by mood and energy. The closer two feelings sit, the easier they are to confuse. Each card gives the short answer. Each page sets the pair side by side, drawn only from the entries themselves.
Two threads stand out. Apathy and boredom share the exact same spot, so only meaning tells them apart. Moral fervour and outrage sit farthest from each other, and still get mixed up.
The self and its judges
Guilt is painful awareness that you caused harm or broke a rule. Shame is the shrinking feeling that your whole self is flawed.
Read the full comparison →Embarrassment is hot, self-conscious discomfort at being exposed in a moment. Shame is the shrinking feeling that your whole self is flawed.
Read the full comparison →Envy is a gnawing want for what someone else has. Jealousy is fearful, possessive anxiety about losing what is already yours.
Read the full comparison →Regret is the painful wish that you had acted differently. Remorse adds a desire to make amends for the harm.
Read the full comparison →Fear and its sizes
Fear is an alarm signal about something threatening your safety now. Anxiety is persistent worry about what might go wrong.
Read the full comparison →Panic is frantic, uncontrollable fear in which clear thought is lost. Terror is paralysing and extreme; the mind goes blank.
Read the full comparison →Horror is shocked, revolted fear at something deeply wrong. Loathing is intense, visceral hatred and revulsion.
Read the full comparison →Overwhelm is too much input at once, exceeding your capacity. Turmoil is churning inner chaos, multiple emotions at war.
Read the full comparison →Sorrow and its shades
Sadness is a heavy, downward pull where the world loses colour. Grief is deep, gutting sorrow from losing someone or something.
Read the full comparison →Sadness is a heavy, downward pull with a cause you can often name. Melancholy is poetic and lingering, without a sharp cause.
Read the full comparison →Loneliness is an aching emptiness from disconnection with others. Solitude is peaceful, chosen aloneness: not lonely, just alone.
Read the full comparison →Nostalgia is bittersweet warmth for the past, happy and sad at once. Saudade is the Portuguese word for melancholic longing for something loved and absent.
Read the full comparison →Care for another
Empathy is feeling what another person feels inside yourself. Sympathy is understanding and caring about their pain from your own place.
Read the full comparison →Pity is sympathetic sadness for another's suffering, felt from above. Sympathy is understanding and caring about their pain, felt beside them.
Read the full comparison →Pity is sympathetic sadness for another's suffering. Compassion is a moved, caring response that leans toward helping.
Read the full comparison →Affection is warm, fond feeling for someone you care about. Warmth is a gentler, more general glow towards someone or something.
Read the full comparison →Anger and dismissal
Anger is a hot, forceful energy against a wrong or obstacle. Rage is explosive and uncontrollable; you see red.
Read the full comparison →Annoyance is mild: a small thing grates on you. Irritation is persistent, low-level aggravation that stays.
Read the full comparison →Contempt is cool dismissal: someone is beneath your regard. Disdain is cold superiority mixed with that dismissal.
Read the full comparison →Outrage is fierce, moral anger at something deeply wrong. Moral fervour is the burning conviction of being on the side of right.
Read the full comparison →The open and the marvelling
Awe is vast, humbling wonder at something far larger than you. Wonder is captivated curiosity at something mysterious or beautiful.
Read the full comparison →Amazement is stunned wonder the mind cannot quite process. Awe is vast and humbling, felt before something far larger than you.
Read the full comparison →Curiosity is a pull to explore, learn or understand something. Wonder is captivated, receiving rather than reaching.
Read the full comparison →Confusion is the mind groping for sense and finding none yet. Bewilderment adds disorientation; the ground shifts under you.
Read the full comparison →The bright states
Happiness is a steady, warm sense of well-being. Joy is brighter and deeper, a warm feeling of deep satisfaction.
Read the full comparison →Excitement is a buzzing, energised thrill about what is happening. Exhilaration is the rush itself, a thrilling surge of aliveness.
Read the full comparison →Satisfaction is the settled feeling when needs or desires are met. Contentment is quiet satisfaction with how things are right now.
Read the full comparison →Peacefulness is a still, undisturbed inner quiet. Serenity is that calm carried with gentle contentment.
Read the full comparison →The empty states
Boredom is flat, unstimulated disengagement; nothing holds interest. Ennui is listless and world-weary, a boredom with life itself.
Read the full comparison →Boredom is disengagement because nothing holds interest right now. Apathy is the complete absence of caring; nothing stirs you.
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