Regret and Remorse, the difference

Regret is the painful wish that you had acted differently. Remorse adds a desire to make amends for the harm.

Each in a line

Regret

Regret is the painful awareness that you wish you had acted differently. The mind replays a moment already passed. The body registers the gap between what was done and what almost was. Unlike guilt, often no one was harmed but yourself.

Sadness family

Remorse

Remorse is painful regret combined with a desire to make amends. The chest carries an acute weight and the shoulders pull down. You face what you have done rather than turning away. The pain of harm joins the impulse to repair.

Negative family

Pleasantness and energy
high energylow energyunpleasantpleasantRegretRemorse
Where each lives in the body

Regret

Head
Pressure, fullness, mental load
Moderate
Chest
Tightness or warmth
Moderate
Stomach
A gentle stir
Quiet

Remorse

Head
Pressure, fullness, mental load
Moderate
Chest
Tightness or warmth
Moderate
Stomach
A sinking pull or knot
Moderate
How long they last

Duration has not been measured for these words.

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